Anyone in a vanilla lifestyle will not have the first clue about domestic discipline in the home.


For the rest of us, domestic discipline signifies a relationship based upon trust and love. 

Punishment is given with love regardless of tears and any hysteria that it may bring.

In the relationship there will be the dominant partner who takes control of the punishment.


Before contemplating a domestic discipline relationship you must first talk about the

commitment it takes from both parties.  It is not something that will happen overnight

but something that is worked upon and perfected until you reach that ultimate goal.


Every day activities, bill payments, family concerns will remain as a 50-50 joint decision making

venture.  There will be no talking down to or ridiculing the submissive partner.  Trust and respect

play a huge part in domestic discipline and what may appear to be a normal healthy relationship

to the outside world,  only the two people involved will know that boundaries.   They will also

know when  a boundary has been crossed and what they face when they get home behind that closed door.


You need to spend time outlining those boundaries,  so there are no sulks when punishment is


Some things that you may include in a domestic discipline agreement are as follows:- 

leaving a toilet seat up

not putting things away in their rightful place

being rude or offensive in front of others

deliberately being obnoxious in front of others in an attempt to get away with punishment

being argumentative when punishment is awarded

moaning or feeling hard done to regarding a punishment


Punishment can be issued in many ways for domestic discipline.

It can be from something as quick and easy as a short sharp hand spanking.

a 6 of the best, or even a good strapping.

These measures are used for on the spot behaviour control.

For constant or repeating of the same errors a monthly punishment is usually given.

A good verbal chastising would normally start the procedure off. 

Don't mince your words, tell your partner why you are annoyed with their behaviour,

Tell them what you expect and what will happen if things don't change.

To make this kind of lifestyle work, you have to operate a no nonsense policy.

No error goes un punished,  in the event of no errors you still have to punish

or they will become complacent, or think can't be bothered any more.

There are a lot of things to consider but well worth the additional time and effort you initially put it.